Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Which Is Better - Being An Introvert or an Extrovert?

introvert vs extrovert


It doesn’t matter whether you’re an introvert or extrovert (also known as “extravert”).

Extroverted people are not better than introverted ones, and vice versa.

So if you come here because you feel there’s something wrong with you for being introverted, change your point of view right now. There is nothing wrong with you.

You’re not anti-social either, no matter what they say.

If you prefer reading your favorite book rather than partying, that’s ok. You don’t need to pretend what you’re not, and look for ways on “how to go from an introvert to an extrovert”.

Actually, no one is purely an introvert or extrovert. You should have some extroverted side too, even though the other side is more dominant.

If you think that you are weak and you have to be outgoing, talkative, etc to succeed, let’s take a look at these facts.

Introvert Vs Extrovert

Susan Cain, an introvert, wrote a great book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World Which Can’t Stop Talking. If you haven’t read it, go buy it now.

According to Cain,

The introverted can:

  • Be more empathetic, because we generally love reading.
  • Be a better listener (this is also needed in the selling profession!)
  • Tend to do tasks more slowly but more cautiously and deliberately.
  • Have better concentration and make smarter decisions.
  • Be a great leader, because we tend to be motivated by a larger goal, instead of spotlight.
  • Be happier, because a study by Matthias Mehl, Ph.D from the University of Arizona found that those who are the happiest participate in far less small talk compared to the unhappiest. But of course, that doesn’t mean that extroverts are unhappy.
  • etc
If those are the introvert advantages, you should already know about the advantages of being an extrovert, right?

Plus, we are living in an extroverted world, the world that can’t stop talking as Cain says. But to make it clearer that both introvert and extrovert can both be good, I’d like to give my own examples:

The extroverted can:
  • Have a higher self-esteem.
  • Do well in careers dealing with people such as selling (although introverts can be as good).
  • Break unwanted relations easily.
  • Be more active and practical.
  • Adapt to new situations better and more quickly.
  • Tend to do tasks more quickly and make fast decisions,
  • etc
So the point is that never underestimate the power of introvert. I am an introvert, and proud of being one. Here's one TED talk about being "quiet" given by Susan Cain, which is one of my favorite talks, where she got a standing ovation:

Be yourself, appreciate and maximize your strengths.

By the way, just like most introverts, I like reading. Personally I like to read personal development materials, including Bob Proctor’s 11 Forgotten Laws :-) Awesome stuff.


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